100 things that are good to know about me...

1. I have nappy hair, which I have a love/hate relationship with.


2. I'm obsessed with shoes. Seriously obsessed.


3. I'm a very sensual person. That does NOT mean that you can get in.


4. I overanalyze everything.


5. I hate the smell of seafood, so I only eat seafood I can't smell.


6. I'm an overly agressive driver. I cruise at 90mph, tailgate, cut people off, flash my brights, and suffer from traffic induced Turrette's syndrome. I'm working on this.


7. When I sing in my car to offset the road rage, I think I sound like E. Badu, Jill Scott & Mary J. all rolled into one.


8. I think every woman has a flower that reflects their personality. Mine is a dragonlily.


9. Honesty and integrity are very important to me - sometimes I'm so honest, it works to my detriment. I will never change that, regardless.


10. I'm addicted to reality TV.


11. When I was 5, I wanted to be white, with blonde hair, and blue eyes. A 5 yr old italian neighbor of mine burst that bubble, and introduced me to the "N" word.


12. I didn't become "black" until I was 11.


13. I still think Peter Frampton was hot.


14. My father drowned when I was 11. We were very close.


15. My mother died 2 weeks after September 11th, 2001. We weren't very close.


16. I loved both my parents, but I must say - I am my mothers child. We were too much alike, two Strong, Independent Black Woman. Which is why we didn't get along.


17. I miss being my daddy's "girl". But I really miss my mom. I really do.


18. Brown Sugar is one of my favorite movies of all time, along with Love Jones, The Best Man, et al.


19. I may someday be a writer, for many reasons, but one of which is::


20. I believe us black folks have more stories than Soul Plane, and Friday After Next belie.


21. I'm a registered Democrat, but I will vote/have voted for Republicans.


22. I refuse to believe that any "party" has my best interests at heart.


23. I think angels walk among us. I also think anyone, at any time, can be called upon to fulfill the role of "angel" in someone else's life.


24. I am one of them colored girls, who considered suicide. And yes, the rainbow is enuff.


25. I am very intelligent.


26. I hate the fact that most intelligent people sacrifice their compassion to highlight their intelligence.


27. I think good manners are important.


28. I love M.A.C and Bobbi Brown cosmetics.


29. I prefer light-colored liquor.


30. I think bling is real 1986 - we shoulda left that trend where it was when we couldn't afford it.


31. I don't care if black people date interracially. However, I personally prefer a brother who personally prefers someone who looks like me.


32. I don't think that social policy will ever change the ills (racism, classism, elitism) that have existed within our culture since it's inception.


33. I wish my people would harness their economic power.


34. My lips are shaped like a heart, and the top lip has a nice divot.


35. I love to dance:: Chicago step, salsa, merengue, er breakdance shake my booty.


36. I have a lot of booty to shake.


37. I need to lose weight. I know I need to lose weight.


38. I love alla me, including the weight I need to lose.


39. I aspire to teach, to reach, to mentor, to open a door. I want to leave a mark on this world.


40. I love steaks, medium rare. Make mine bloody, thank you very much.


41. I have two brothers, one whole & one half, that I do not know.


42. I am a very sensitive person.


43. I find it extremely difficult to share things about myself.
44. I have dismissed more people from my life lately than I have let in.


45. My most recent "exes" and my ex-best friend all agree: I can be very dismissive. If I even think you're shady, you'll get cut faster than you can say "I'm sorry"


46. I love music, particularly "neo-soul" and have a constant soundtrack in my head.


47. I like frou-frou coffee, and the adult milkshakes they serve at Starbucks.


48. I don't like red roses, because I think they take little imagination, and are too easily accessible.


49. I was in an abusive relationship.


50. The person who abused me gave me red roses all the time.


51. I've never been married.


52. I would like to be married.


53. I could drive from NY to CA with no problems, as long as I have a map.


54. I have driven 1000+ by myself, only stopping for gas.


55. The last time I did this, I hallucinated a Klansman, driving a black hearse, wearing glasses over his hood, driving next to me. I vowed not to do it again.


56. I think everyone has issues.


57. I talk to myself. Sometimes, that's the only intelligent person I can find to have a conversation with.


58. I am a computer geek.


59. I also used to want to be a fashion designer.


60. I like wearing fashionable clothing.


61. I have also been known to wear a flash drive/mini-disk as a fashion accessory.


62. I make computer geeks look GOOD.


63. I am a former teenage welfare mom.


64. I have two baby-daddies, and they are both uninterested in their children.


65. I have a grown daughter, who moved out last year, that I miss terribly.


66. I am the parent of a disabled child.


67. My sweet, loving son saved my life.


68. Sometimes, I feel ill-equipped to be his mother.


69. I never intended to become a single parent. Twice.


70. Being a single parent is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life.


71. I have used/abused drugs & alcohol.


72. In another life, I sold drugs to finance my habit.


73. I used to date street pharmacists exclusively.


74. I hope the statute of limitations has expired on my stint as a street pharmacist.


75. When Ms. Jackson and I were young, we looked alike - back in the Penny on Good Times days.


76. I sometimes lust for an extreme makeover so we can look alike again.


77. I am more witty & sarcastic than funny. And I love that about myself.


78. I don't do regret or shame. At least I try hard not to.


79. I really believe: shame/regret is a useless emotion, forcing us to dwell on things we can never change. Learn the lesson, and keep moving.


80. My friends say I have overachiever in me.


81. I am very driven.


82. I am not always very focused (they are SO not the same thing).


83. I am a pack-rat, from a long line of pack-rats.


84. I love hip-hop music, and will until I die.


85. I hate gangsta rap, Master P., all No Limit artists, and all this "bling-bling" bullshit.


86. I write poetry, mainly because (sometimes) poetry allows me to breath.


87. I wish I had the balls to recite my poetry.


88. I think every woman should exercise their right to masturbate, buy sex toys, and own porn. I have ;-)


89. I sometimes drift off asleep as I'm typing.


90. Within the last 18 months, I've had two surgeries for fibroids - a Hysteroscopy and a Myomectomy (see Intracavitary Myoma and Submucous Myomas).


91. My doctor wanted/still wants me to have a hysterectomy, because of the fibroids.


92. I still have one fibroid.


93. I have wicked, wicked pms, possibly thanks to the remaining fibroid. However, we've come to an agreement - it stops bleeding like crazy (which had my Dr. really concerned) and I give it a home, for now. I want to keep my uterus.


94. I once (only once) spent three days in jail. For a non-street-pharmacist related charge.


95. There is nothing remotely comfortable, luxurious, plush, or desirable about jail. It is dehumanizing, despite what anyone may say or show in the media. And the only thing I see wasteful (in terms of tax dollars) about it is the bureaucracy. Which the inmates have little to do with.


96. I have never been in prison, so I can't speak to that.


97. My friends also say I am boughetto or boughetti - bourgeoisie and ghetto. Strangely, I'm ok with that.


98. My friends came up with that 2 years ago - way before that Ali & Murphy Lee song.


99. My friends are the closest thing I have to family. And they have all been dropped on their heads, IMHO.


100. I love my friends, dearly. They hold me down, keep me grounded and elevated, at the same time. And mostly I love them because they know and embrace the following::


101. I am way too complicated to be described by 100 things.


Whew...that was tougher/easier than I thought.